No Crying Over Spilled Milk

I really miss my Flaky Friend who dumped me. I miss hanging out with her and chatting with her and frankly...I miss her flakiness because usually her excuses were so wild, they had to be true!

I had, what I would call a work acquaintance once who I will call ABC. ABC and I used to get together for lunch when we worked together about every two months. I liked her, but I wouldn't have called us friends as the only time I was invited to her home was for one of those stupid "pay" parties like Pampered Chef.

In my old job, I used to travel a lot overseas. She kept IM'ing me asking when I was coming back in town. Once I got back, she asked me to come see her and she was crying. She was not a person to cry, much less to cry in public. She told me that she had been having an affair. She married her high school sweetheart and they have 3 children - all under the age of 9 at the time. She asked me if she could come stay with me for a while because she needed a break. She has family in town but didn't want to go to any of them until they could figure out if this was a trial separation or a real one. I felt backed into a corner. I knew her husband - heck, he built my deck for me one summer. And my brother and sister-in-law knew them as well. They went to my brother's birthday party one year. So, I said okay, you can stay with me. I was headed back overseas and she offered to cat sit for me for the 2 weeks I was gone.

While I was gone, I would hear periodically from other work friends/acquaintances about ABC and what was going on at my house. And basically it turns out she was just using me to further her affair. They were using my home to continue to meet up. Not only that, her affair was with a man we all worked with - a man who had recently become my "friend". Now I knew why...

Basically I was used. So long story short...we obviously do not speak anymore. The guy she was having an affair with actually had the balls to come up to me ask what happened between us...whatever, there was no us. You used me and I don't care for being used.

I just heard she has a new job at a new company. To quote another friend, "new men to cruise".

It sucks when you make a bad call on who to trust as a friend. As much as I miss Flaky...I'm not calling again. I'm tired of all the BS.